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It might not just be her phone, either - it's more than likely that she's changed her password on her computer, and is hiding her diary. You're probably going to start feeling like a parent, especially when you walk in the room and she starts quickly closing browser tabs. Trust us, she's not watching porn, just flirting with someone you don't know.
The doorway into the soul. As The Eagles knew, if you're lyin', you can't hide it in your eyes. And it's true - they really do say a lot more than slippery words ever can. Does she no longer meet yours? When she talks to you, are they smiling, or glazed over?
Or are they flitting about the bar, looking for a better match? Watch carefully when you talk to her, or ask her a question. There's no need to be a fortune teller - just a simple glance away every time she answers you will be obvious enough. There could be other explanations, like if you live in a hummingbird farm, but the simplest is that she's not telling you the whole truth.
The whole truth being that she's found another bed to lie in. The movies were right about this one: If you consider how few people she'd be meeting in her day-to-day life outside of work, it makes sense. Not only that, but there's all those juicy opportunities. Business trips, office parties, tight project deadlines - all of these can turn intimate in the blink of an eye. A regular office girl is bound to have these kinds of events every now and again, so if she's late home a couple of times a year, there's nothing to worry about.
But if office functions and "lots of work" seems to come up with increasing frequency, you'd better check out her cover story quick smart with a couple of her colleagues. You might not like what you find. Most people don't even notice the little things their partner does every day. It doesn't really matter whether she's at the gym every other day for precisely two hours - all that matters is that she comes home. She doesn't care if you're going for a drink after work, only that you'll pick up some Thai food on the way home. Sometimes, though, she will start to take a keen interest in what you're doing and where you'll be.
That's not because she's suddenly fascinated by what your friends talked about over a couple of beers. No, it's actually so she knows what she can get away with, and for how long. Basically, whether the bed's free for someone else. Might be time to shake up your routine.
Now, we're pretty sure that you're capable of some annoying habits, like clipping your toenails at the kitchen table or singing the Star Spangled Banner at the top of your lungs, every morning at 5 a. But lately, she's started to pick and nag about everything you do, not just the annoying things.
For some reason, you've copped an earful for putting the recycling in the wrong bin, like anybody even knows what the hell is the right one. Want to know why she's doing that? Well, it's a pretty simple psychological trick. It's a way of justifying to herself her cheating ways, and making them seem not as bad in comparison. People who are cheating on their partners, or are about to break up with them, will often find the slightest faults in every little thing that the other person says or does. It's guilt, and it's self-defense. She may be cheating on you, but at least she's not destroying the planet by not recycling properly.
One of those buzzphrases that gets thrown around a lot these days is "emotional cheating". It's not just about the physical act anymore, but about having an intense emotional bond with someone else. A bond that might just be better and more fulfilling than the one they're having with their partner. There's one major problem with emotional cheating, though: Well, if she's cheating on you, she's forming these emotional bonds with someone else by opening up to them.
She's sharing her highs and lows, fears and dreams, and you'll be able to tell that because she won't need to share them with you anymore. She's got a new sympathetic ear to whisper sweet nothings to, and maybe even share a bed with. We're not looking to open up some age-old battle of the sexes here, but we will say one thing: Women look for commitment, and men couldn't run away faster if their balls were on fire. We're big kids at heart, us men, and the idea of just playing with one toy for the rest of our lives just doesn't seem right - especially when there's an infinitely big Lego set out there.
That being said, there are some men who are more than happy to settle down and say those magic words. If you're one of those, and your partner is being unfaithful, you're going to find that the tables are turned. Cheating women have no interest in the long-term anymore, and clearly they don't see a future with you. If she can't or won't talk about commitment, then there's something clearly wrong. Whether you're living together or not, quality time in a relationship is important.
You should be able to hang out at any time of the day or night, and plan spontaneous outings without it being a huge deal. Otherwise what's the point of having a partner?
Of course people have their own lives, but you've got to make room for that special someone in your life. Maybe she's refusing to see you when you've both got a weekend free. Maybe you spend your Netflix nights alone these days, waiting for her to walk through the door. Maybe you can't even really reach her on the phone anymore. There'll be excuses and vague promises, but the writing's already on the wall - she'd rather spend her time with another hunk. Criminal suspects aren't too different from cheaters, really - they're just breaking hearts instead of windows.
Sometimes we actually wish we had Detective Goren sorting out our love lives so that we didn't have to! When cross-examined, the innocent always get angry, and the guilty always get defensive. Now, we're not suggesting that you start grilling her under a hot table lamp here, but if your simple questions start to get wildly defensive responses, it could be time to start turning up the heat. There's two ways this can play out.
Either she's wearing a new perfume, or she's picked up the light scent from another man. Neither of them are good news. The first, like new clothes, is a sign she's ready to start flirting again. The second is even more obvious: Let the mental images begin! It really is a dead giveaway, so it's kinda unfortunate that it doesn't happen as much as it does in the movies.
First off, she's not going to be bathing in that guy's aftershave, no matter how much she likes him.
Secondly, it requires the nose of a police beagle to even tell the difference most days. Still, keep a nostril out for any changes. And if she starts smelling like weed and burritos, marry her. Anyone who's been through a bitter split after a long relationship will know one thing: There's friends of hers that you like and will never see again.
Her brother kinda likes playing video games more with you than her. And let's not forget the fact that you met through a mutual friend, who now has to divide their time between the two of you. Breaking up is hard - that's what we're basically saying. When a relationship melts down, your family and friends are caught in the crossfire. Often they have to take sides, or try and console both parties, or are simply witnesses to some uncomfortable secrets.
No-one wants to involve the people you love into things like that, so if she's pulling away from them, it could be a hint that she's ready to split. On the flipside from constant nagging and picking at what you do wrong is the other, equally scary extreme: Any time men get together, you'll hear the same old story: I forgot to be at the birth of our baby and she was weirdly furious - that kind of thing. But try to imagine the opposite, if you can. What if she didn't care at all? What if she didn't even raise an eyebrow at your antics, or just stayed quiet when you came home drunk and pooped on the floor?
In a way, the only thing scarier than an angry woman is a silent woman, because that means her mind is on other things. She's probably already moved on. This is the ultimate vicious circle of relationships: It's the delicate balance we all face, especially if we're confronted with the thought that they might be cheating. If you're insecure, they might back away and start actually cheating. If you're not, they might think they can walk all over you. You could be the manliest man and the most independent punk in the world, but you're still vulnerable to desperately clinging on to love.
Basically, you've got to watch your own actions this time, and listen to your brain. It's the one making you clingy in the first place, because it knows, deep down, that there's something wrong in the relationship.
How long do you wait before you should start to worry? If you listen to the fake cops in Hollywood, it's 48 hours. Ask a rock star and they'll tell you it's somewhere around the two-month mark. Ask your mother and she'll probably say 10 minutes. The point is that there's no hard and fast rule - if you haven't seen your girl in a while, you'll just have to listen to your heart. Of course, if you haven't seen her in a month you can safely assume that it's over.
Even if it's just a few days at a time with no word and no explanation, it's still looking a little suss. Not that you have to know where she is at all times. But if she's the type that's glued to her phone, and you're not getting any of the updates? Put up those "Missing" posters. TV shows and movies are guilty of perpetuating one pretty silly myth: But the truth is that women really aren't that bad. Considering how much stupid stuff guys do, they really put up with and stay silent about a lot of crap.
It's not unusual for anyone to try and get their partner to stop being an idiot all the time, but if that nagging reaches epic proportions, that's a worrying sign. She doesn't hate you, but she has had enough. She's found someone else that is pushing all the right buttons and none of the wrong ones, and that nagging is her way of building up an argument to break up with you. Once in a lifetime, a woman will come along who seems like she's just perfect for you. Even when the honeymoon period is over and you've stopped desperately lying about yourselves, you still find out that you have so much in common.
That you love the same stuff, and could talk about everything for days on end without coming up for air.
Nowadays, though, that woman has changed. You still love all the same stuff, but when you talk about it it's almost as if she isn't in the room. You could bring up the latest season of GLOW and she'd still mumble something incoherent and stare into space or tap away at her phone. She's got other things on her mind, that's what. And she won't tell you about them because it'll crush you.
Sometimes, when you're convinced that something's up, there's no use skulking around like a private eye anymore. The best thing to do is just to confront her and ask her straight up for the truth. Many times, you'll find out what you want to know. But at other times, she'll have one final trick up her sleeve: Silence could mean one of two things, actually: Either way, that's a bad sign.
No-one wants to lie, especially women, and she'll do anything to not be that person. Even though she's already started one of the biggest lies of all. Alright, alright, we can hear you laughing already. A girl who often buys new clothes? That just means she's still breathing, not that she's necessarily cheating. We know that no woman would ever turn down an opportunity to expand her wardrobe, and your lady is likely to be just the same.
But sometimes, just sometimes, it's not a good sign. The key thing to look out for is whether she's actually wearing those clothes around you or not. Even if it's as she's getting ready for a night out with the girls, she should still be showing off her new rags proudly. On the other hand, if you're seeing a bunch of receipts and shopping bags but none of the merchandise, she's saving her best looks for someone else.
And she doesn't want you to know. If there's one thing that men are actually good at - you know, aside from opening jars and catcalling - it's separating emotions and sex. In fact, they're very good at separating emotions from just about everything. Women, on the other hand, are far more likely to let emotions intertwine with every aspect of their life. When they start to disconnect, it's a big deal. It's also a very deliberate choice.
A lot of men don't care if they don't love the woman that they're sleeping with. A lot of women won't bother to sleep with you unless they love you first. Withdrawing their feelings is their way of saying that they're not interested any more. They're going to invest those feelings somewhere else. She's preparing for a messy breakup, and she's protecting herself from getting hurt. When a woman's in love, she's never afraid to hide it. She'll blush, she'll play with her hair, she'll laugh at even the lamest joke. When she's by herself, she'll spend long hours just looking out the window, smiling faintly and even occasionally sighing.
We're not joking here - the faces of flirtation really haven't changed all that much since Jane Austen's day. Once upon a time, you were the one getting all those love signals. Nowadays, we're guessing that the only time she looks slightly dreamy is when she sees that you're doing the dishes or a pair of Jimmy Choos are on sale. If it's neither of those things, and she's off in another world, smiling to herself all the time, it's definitely not about you.
Independence is totally cool, and you've got to let a girl do her own thing.
She's got things she likes to do that you don't, and if it makes her happy, set her free. It'll be good for you too, because a happy and independent woman is a woman that's easy to love. Well, You are smart enough to know what it means! Maybe there is something else and If you are carrying even a cent of doubt in your head, make sure you take this into account. Maybe she is asking about your whereabouts so that she can relax with that mystery man for a bit more time. But I guess your girlfriend should not force you to do so. If she asks you to go out with friends more often, she is indirectly asking you for the license to spend time with someone else.
Just be cautious, it is a sign your girlfriend is cheating. However, if she is taking extra care of her phone, something is going wrong in your love relationship. Is she suddenly taking extra care of her looks? Well, girls love to do so. However, there should be some reason behind it. However, if she is doing this without telling you the logic behind it, she might be cheating on you. She has got someone else to impress. If not, why should she dress up so well? Is the same happening with you? It means that someone else is taking more care of her.
Oct 4, Or in some cases, many. Here are intimations of infidelity that should tentatively raise flags: 10 Signs Your Girlfriend Is Cheating On You. Feb 7, Luckily for you, we spoke with therapists, relationship experts and dating coaches to identify the big indicators that your girlfriend is cheating.
Freak out when she starts hiding them from you.